Why Are Men or Boys Sometimes Like Women or Girls? The Myth Threatening Our Survival
- Why are men or boys sometimes like women or girls?
- How do we understand and solve the conflict between the sexes?
I will answer these questions now.
Why are men or boys sometimes like women or girls?
Men, boys, women and girls are all people, and all people are individuals. The supposed differences are a result of thousands of years of cultural myths. Those myths are causing divisiveness and threatening our survival. You are a person, and you are good. We all share the ability to express all traits and leanings that are human. We are people first, and men and women second.
The imposed unnatural differences are a product of the primary myth on which our civilization is based. Because it is a primary core belief that men are different from women, we tend to be blind to anything contrary. This is the lens through which we view human reality. This artificial division between males and females is the cause of everything from bullying to high crime rates and war.
There is a reason why our civilization has thought of us as being men or women first rather than individuals or people first. It was necessary to create this artificial division in order to narrow perception to the physical world. We stepped apart from animal perception that sees itself as being connected to everything, including an inner reality from which we have only recently emerged.
This division may have once served a purpose, but we are in danger because we have taken this too far for too long. The time has come to heal and to step outside of the myths that have held us back for so long. War, violence and divisiveness are a symptom of the artificial division.
Boys are sometimes like girls and men like women because we are people first. We have defined men and women as being different when in fact we are all basically the same, regardless of which sex we belong to.
Basing our civilization on the differences between males and females is nonsensical
For hundreds of generations boys have been told that they must be tough, merciless and macho to be a true male. As a result, this becomes survival programming which is gradually coded into the next generations DNA, ultimately producing the rougher appearance of males.
Boys are often terrified of revealing their sensitive nature because they may be perceived as “girl-like,” and this is taboo in many cultural settings. Girl-like behaviors can make boys targets for bullying and worse. Love between males is still taboo and even outlawed in certain societies.
I suffered as a result of norms that I did not fit into. I also learned early on that men and boys, women and girls, are all alike. I also realized why we hold onto this myth and how destructive it really is.
Division between the sexes began about five thousand years ago
The stress placed on the differences between the sexes began over five thousand years ago. Isolating “male” characteristics in one sex is the cause of a 5,000-year period of violence in humanity’s history. The artificial division and exaggerations underpin most of humanity’s problems.
We have based our civilization on the differences between males and females, when in fact those differences are insignificant. The similarities are far greater. The energy, power and creative capabilities of a complete and united soul is far beyond those of the artificial, reduced self that our culture presumes to be normal.
Toughness and ruthlessness were virtues in early tribal societies and compassion in the male could lead to death in battle. Thus, the more ruthless genes were passed to the next generation. This has carried over. In Islamic sharia law, for example, there are strict codes that males must adhere to and punishments may include stoning to death for homosexuality.
Vladmire Putin has LGBT Ukrainians on his kill list, and I personally have witnessed widespread condemnation of a similar nature growing up in a more tolerant community near New York, USA.
The problem continues throughout society. When a person can be killed for being natural and loving, the entire civilization is in danger. When love cannot be expressed, contrary emotions compensate. People become mean. Hatred punitive measures become more severe. Unhappy people do not want others to be happy.
Suppression of love in males has a direct link to war between nations. It is behind the high incarceration rate in America.